He did it again. Didn’t he? The first day my friend introduced me to her new lover, something just did seems right. I think my friend wasn’t in his class. My friend were way to young for him and had a bright future laying ahead of her.
When they met, it was during our final year in high school. My friend still have to find her steps into adult world. Either going to further her studies or finding a job after graduating from high school. But as for the guy, he was already into adult world. He owned a car, had a house and a good job with all the necessary benefits and assets.
As for my friend, she wasn't a match for this guy at all, but I wouldn’t open my big mouth, lest she thinks I am jealous. The guy had it all he needed and could afford anything he wanted.
One strange thing that I was not comfortable with, my friend could only visit his place on appointment only. At times, the guy would disappear over the weekend and reappear after the weekend was over. He would get lost in town or outside town, nobody knows as his phone would always divert to voicemail. Something was indeed fishy with this guy. I felt that this relationship was very much one sided. But maybe that was my opinion, entitled to myself.
In this relationship, only the guy were calling the shorts as to what should be done, where and when. Since my friend were about to graduate from high school she was a total liability to this guy and on a low-cost maintenance. The guy would spoil her with little things such as airtime, chocolates and fast food. On several occasions my friend will go to the guy’s place only to come back disappointed, as the guy would not open the door even if all signs were showing that he was inside the house or if it was not him then somebody else were inside the house.
At times the window will be left open, music will be playing or sometimes the television will be on, but the guy will pretend not to be around.
As girls, we will be sitting and discussing relationship issues, such as how to protect a broken heart, things to be alert on. As well as how to triumph in the man’s world. Exchanging ideas and experiences. Such as, there is a saying that goes; as fast as a person can fall in love, can also fall out of love the same way and there is absolutely nothing one can do about it.
Hmmh.. meaning that it is much safer to step into a relationship with one feet inside and the other feed outside, incase if things did not turn out according to one expectations. A certain percentage of ❤️ break will be saved, and it will be easy to pick up the pieces to start over. It is also believed that before one goes into a relationship one should consider what you are going to offer to that relationship apart from love and affection. There must be an exchange of value to secure the union.
As eyes cannot be controlled when it comes to beautiful things. They are quick to detect beauty. No matter how possessive you may be, holding your partner hand tightly when walking down the street, even answering his calls, won't help much.
The eyes are able to roll in every direction, zoom in and zoom out, scan and close the deal in your presence without you even realizing a thing.
In this relationship, only the guy were calling the shorts, what he said, goes.
Therefore, it’s important to craft a genuine meaning in the life of your partner. Your value should bring the meaning to the union, only then, you will be celebrated and remain around for a longer period. Above all, know the social status of your prospective partner. If the guy is in a class that is far above yours, see that as a red flag already. Be realistic to yourself, and safeguard your heart. If there is nothing tangible that you can bring to the guy’s life, re-consider your option and save yourself from a lot of troubles, like my friend said.
A blessing that is meant to stay will not come along with haste, and conditions, self centered or disappearing without a trace and reappearing when the weekend is over. Life is a journey. We all need to belong somewhere. When you accept something is to have and to hold. A blessing that is turning you into a fisherman, finding yourself at the seaside, swimming through the sea to search for your fish everytime is not meant to be. Don’t sell your heart to it.
Have principles in life. Learn to stand strong on your principles. Make it known to your prospective partner. Let both of you meet halfway, as happiness belong to both of you. Refuse to be disposable. Let your virtue speak for you. Whatever you do become a need instead of a want You will have your 👑 crown on your head for a longest time. A crown on your head will carry you through many stormy seas.
You will have to work on your virtue for another person to value, recognize, appreciate and celebrate you. A relationship that is one sided does not work, You will have to work on your virtue for another person to value, recognize, appreciate and celebrate you. The relationship that is always about one person doesn’t go far. With woman, it seems manageable, without knowing depression find it’s way in. Anything that is not build on clarity and transparency, it’s only a matter of time before it crumble.
Gone those days that we will expect someone to tell us the truth. We have come to know the different between the reality and the truth. Out of 100% only 7% is audible, while the other 93% remain unspoken, and can be found in body language 55% while the other remaining 38% in tone. No matter what the person is telling you, you will never hear the complete truth.
We all need to be loved, embrace and belong. Yet, we are called to live in peace. And peace cannot come without clarity and transparency.
And then, my friend caused her own heartbreak
As the days passes by my friend became aware of the third party in a relationship and she decided to confront the guy. I don’t know who advised her to tell the guys to choose between her and the third party in their relationship.
Boom…The guy said, I’m sorry but unfortunately there is a value with the third party, that I cannot lose. A child is born in that relationship the guy said.
My friend went like, what ….? She shouted in disbelief.
Amid the ❤️ break, my friend told me that when the guy responded to her, she felt a sort of relieve, of being spared. I had no clue how a person can be spared amid of such heartbreak. But as for her she remain optimistic and totally believed, that the breakup spared her from further purchasing airtime that she had been buying often to call the guy and that she is also spared from all the tears she was going to cry, wetting her pillow at night and as well as from all the sleepless nights she could have been awake waiting for him. Inclusive of any other futuristic dissapoiments and headaches. What an excellent way of thinking, quite comforting, hey, I thought as I was trying to make sense of the whole ordeal.
Life goes on. We learn from our mistakes. What does not destroying us completely, strengthen us. Out of every incident there is always a learning outcome to help us do better in the future.
Life goes on. We learn from our mistakes. What does not destroying us completely, strengthen us. Out of every incident there is always a learning outcome to help us do better tomorrow.
Do you agree with my friend reasoning? Do you think she could have done something else to get justice for her heartbreak?