Its okay to feel hurt, by someone you love because he or she can no longer be with you. We ought to understand that life itself has away of bringing people together through events and separate them, such as at schools, colleges, collegas at work and so on. As the result people end up clicking. Two people may click because of the certain scenario that brought them together. It can also happen with friendship. It can be a certain kind of a challenge, vulnerable situation that they were facing at the same time or in the same environment or at the same support system they were meeting.
This could draw them together. For example, you could be meeting at a doctor‘s room or at a counselling center or could be at a rehabilitation center or maybe at a refugee camp. Or maybe at Women and Child Abuse Centers, and find comfort in each other, while sharing life experiences. But, that does not mean that you are compatible in other areas of life. You only meet during that dark moments, trying times in your life. Unfortunately, during that moments many end up making wrong decisions, involving or hooking up with wrong people because of brokeness and end up being taken advantage of.
Sometimes it can be so dark, that one can never really distinguish right from wrong. One thing for sure, darkness does not last forever. As the moon comes to rule the night, so does the sun comes to rule the day. No matter how dark life seems to be, light will always prevail at the end of the tunnel. Therefore, it is not good, nor advisible to make decisions during our most vulnerable time. At times, we need to fight our individual battle and come out of it, wait for the dust to settle down before taking decisions or jumping into relationships. We should not despair. When the right time comes, things will surely fall into the right place. If, for whatever reason you have jumped into a relationship without thoroughly thinking, there is hope for you. The reality will bring you back to your senses and you will make the right decision for your own well-being. Dark moments in life does not define us. Nor, the state of vulnerability. The reality will convict you. What is right will set you free, no matter what. Yes, to be in love or have someone looking over you, promising you Heaven and Earth, listening to your heartbeat, soothing you to sleep, waking you up with a softest feather of all feathers in the world, waving on your ear, or with an aroma of your favorable cup of tea, probably is the greatest feeling on the planet. Who would not want that?
But, then, we should keep in mind, that to maintain that, it also takes Heaven and Earth as well. A lot of clarity, communication, understanding, empathy, and endurance will have to come into play. Whatever truth you have found that you cannot handle in your relationship will never give you peace and contentment. Because truth remain, unlike lies. So, whatever is true, is destined to last. Do not compromise it. Stop it right there. Sometimes it may cause us to give up on our loving memories, our passionate relationships or maybe our dream jobs. Trust me,when you find out the truth, slowly by slowly, the trust that the relationship was build upon will start melting down and give way. Eventually, there will be nothing to hold on to anymore or to carry on or to live for, as void and betrayal will be the only thing that will be making noise on your conscious mind. We are humans and we have emotions, surely we are prone to emotional damage. But, trust me once again, When times passes by, the pain will fades away. It happens with other so it will happen to you. And you will live to tell the tale and encourage others. Time is indeed a good healer. Let the nature takes its course. It shall come to pass. You will be looking at it from the distance and feel absolutely nothing about it, when time passes by and the dust settled down.