I saw you ...
Knock and the door shall be open unto you. Seek and you shall find. Were those your intentions or you just walked in by accident? No, problem, whatever the reason or it just happened. Its okay. Probably it was meant to happen. You have done a great thing. Now, calm down. Seeing is believing. Nothing can take that away from you. Don’t be in hurry. Sleep over it. Plan well. Your approach is very important. A strategic plan can give you a winning ticket. Don’t be loud, no screaming, no shouting, please..!! The neighbors will hear. I hope you did not just see, but you also have proof. Unless you are pretty sure of what you want to do, don’t tell your family members, first. Keep it away from the children. Rather speak to a trusted friend or a counsellor or a therapist.
You need to get hold of yourself and focus on your next move. Don’t let your emotions lead you into something you might regret later. The fact that you saw it, settled it. Even though you saw what you think you saw, remember the two sides of the coin. Your reality is not his reality, nor is your reality his reality. Meaning whatever makes something real to you, is not what makes it real to another person. So, be slow to get angry.
For instance, your past experience can play a very important role in fast-forwarding assumptions to conclusion, which might not be necessary the case. So, it can be with him as well. It is important to listen to the other party’s side of the story, before making any conclusion. Assumption should never be part of the equation at all. Dig deeper for more clarity, before finalizing your decision. Invite the other party. Table your concern. Give him a chance to bring his part, to explain himself. Analyze the information presented carefully. Correct what need to be corrected.
Make sure both of you have the full understanding of what happened and that you are on the same page. If there are other parties involves, such as children, business agreements or other previous arrangements that cannot be left just like that in the air, agree to disagree on the prevailing case until resolved, but otherwise let nothing affect the third party. Maintain and handle diligently that which you are sharing, that was already on the ground, while looking for amicable solution to what had brought grief into your relationship. Misunderstanding and relationship challenges are storms of life. They come and go. Remember your efforts and your investments can be in great danger or at stake. So, don’t rush to make decision in haste. Whatever had happened, had happened. It won’t take the pain or the reality away. So, don’t rush in making decision. Let the nature take its course. Time heals perfectly. Let some time pass by. When both of you have cooled down, then, you can proceed with any arrangement with clear heads.
Trust me, when time passes by, you will find yourself in a different position, looking at that same scenario from a distance without pain or emotions, as well as you will be in a right frame of mind to make proper and rewarding decisions. It shall pass. Its only a pain of the moment. Give it a time. It will go away. Time heals perfectly.